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Bachelorette Party: Here's How to Plan It
A bachelorette party is a gathering held in honor of a woman’s upcoming marriage. It is typically attended by the bride’s closest friends and family members.
While there are many opportunities to fête a couple and married life during the wedding planning process, only one event focuses on celebrating the bride and the bride alone: the bachelorette party.
The bachelorette party has also evolved from a low-key dinner or luncheon held the day before the wedding into a full-blown destination weekend, complete with matching swimsuits, private boat charters, and its own hashtags.
“Traditionally, the joke is that the bachelorette is your final night of freedom,” says pro bachelorette party planner Allison Odhner, who notes that the rise in popularity of the concept coincided with the women’s liberation movement of the ’60s. “But it’s evolved into women celebrating other women and a reason to spend quality time with your favorite people.”
Wherever your ideal celebration falls on the spectrum, read on for everything you need to know about how to plan a bachelorette party.
Bachelorette Party Etiquette
Bachelorette parties may be all about fun, but etiquette questions still come up. Here are answers to the most frequently asked questions.
Who throws a bachelorette party?
A bachelorette party is traditionally planned by the bride’s maid of honor, a small group of bridesmaids, or a small group of close friends, but there are no set rules here! It’s perfectly fine if the bride wants to handle planning herself.
“The most important thing to remember is that lots of opinions quickly become a disaster,” says Odhner. “It’s best for one or two people to lead the planning, and the rest should try to go with the flow as much as possible.”
When do you hold a bachelorette party?
There are no set rules here, either—different seasons are better for different destinations, and the coronavirus pandemic has some couples opting to delay their bachelor and bachelorette parties until after they get married—but Odhner says most bachelorettes occur one or two months before the wedding.
Is it OK to plan it over a holiday weekend?
While hosting your wedding during a holiday weekend can be a controversial move, it’s generally more accepted for bachelorette parties because the event involves a smaller group that’s more intimately connected to the bride.
But while it’s nice for the group to not have to take an extra vacation day, airfare and hotels can be more costly during a holiday weekend, so you’ll want to weigh priorities accordingly when selecting the date.
How involved should the bride be in planning?
If someone other than the bride is taking point on planning the bachelorette party, they should get the bride’s input up front. “Ask if they have a specific destination and dates in mind as well as activities or specific things they’re interested in doing,” says Odhner.
“From there, it’s your responsibility to take the bride’s vision and bring it to life.” Meaning, a few questions here and there are okay, but don’t drag the bride too far into the logistical weeds. She’s got a wedding to plan, after all!
Who gets invited to a bachelorette party?
This is the bride’s decision. Some brides will want just their bridal party there while others will extend the invitation to a larger circle of family, friends, and even members of their partner's inner circle.
Either way, people that are invited to the bachelorette should also be invited to the wedding, and gender shouldn’t prevent anyone from making the guest list.
Do you need to send formal invitations?
Formal invitations are not necessary for a bachelorette party. “Often, it’s just an email,” says Odhner. “Nothing too formal, nothing too cute, just something focused on logistics and general information to get a feel for who can attend.”
After key details and the confirmed guest list are set, however, a more official e-vite or paper invitation can be blasted out to get the group excited about attending.
Who pays for the bachelorette party?
Traditionally, each bachelorette party attendee pays his or her own way through the celebration and also chips in to cover the cost of the bride. If the bachelorette party is one night of dinner or drinks, it’s a nice gesture, but not entirely necessary, to follow suit.
If the bachelorette party is a multiday affair that requires hopping on a plane, however, it’s more common for a bride to pay her own way, especially when it comes to transportation and lodging.
Should there be party favors?
While not mandatory by any means, bachelorette party favors like tumblers, mugs, fanny packs, and personalized attire have become increasingly popular over the last few years. “Something they’ll use throughout the weekend is great,” says Odhner, who typically arranges for the favors to be set out at arrival or distributed at the beginning of the events she plans.
Steps to Planning a Bachelorette Party
If you've been tasked with planning the bach party or weekend, you'll want a roadmap. Here's a seven-step to planning a bachelorette party.
1. Determine the guest list
2. Pick a location
3. Figure out your date
4. Book your lodgings
If you’re going the hotel route, Odhner suggests booking at least one suite. “That way there’s a communal place for people to pop in, have a glass of Champagne before they head out, or just hang out in during the morning,” she says. Because lodging is the bulk of the expense for a bachelorette weekend, it’s a good idea to ask invitees for the range they’re comfortable spending per night ($0 to 100, $100 to $200, $200 to $300, $300 and up) before booking your accommodations.
5. Plan your activities
6. Arrange group meals
7. Confirm attendance
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